深圳富人家庭里的“外包妈妈”：月薪3万，住豪宅，但只想过渡
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">一个普通人，想住进深圳的豪宅区，感受跨越阶级的金字塔顶端生活，有一种职业<span style="color: black;">能够</span>实现——入职富人家庭，做富人小孩的儿童<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师，俗<span style="color: black;">叫作</span>“外包妈妈”。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">张琪从事的便是这项职业，实现了从月薪8000、自负食宿、住在小单间的日子，到月薪3万、家里有<span style="color: black;">保母</span>、住深圳豪宅的飞跃。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">让她从几十个面试者中脱颖而出的，不仅是她优秀的外语水平，还有六合又旺宅的生肖和面相。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">虽然这份工作让她吃好睡好涨工资，但富人家的小孩<span style="color: black;">亦</span><span style="color: black;">无</span><span style="color: black;">那样</span>好带，她自<span style="color: black;">叫作</span>为“教习嬷嬷”和“大丫鬟”，为富人家的“<span style="color: black;">体积</span>姐”既做<span style="color: black;">保母</span>又做老师，被气哭几次后，才<span style="color: black;">最终</span>摸清儿童心理。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">虽然工作稳定、薪资稳定，但她深知长此以往<span style="color: black;">亦</span>非良计，这份工作只适合过渡，她自认或许“无福“长此以往地消受这不属于自己的“荣华富贵”。</span></p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">重生之</span></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">给富家<span style="color: black;">体积</span>姐当教习嬷嬷</span></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">清晨6点，闹钟响起，张琪蹑手蹑脚地起身，轻声<span style="color: black;">步行到</span>厨房，看一眼阿姨准备的早餐。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">倘若</span>餐桌上摆放的又是千篇一律的煮白粥、水煮蛋、蒸玉米和小馒头，张琪便会自己下厨，给老板的小孩做个饭团<span style="color: black;">或</span>煎个蛋卷，保持小孩对早餐的<span style="color: black;">鲜嫩</span>感。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">6点半，张琪把睡梦中的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>叫醒，给她准备好校服。让她刷牙洗脸、换衣服，再给她扎个头发，整理好着装后，<span style="color: black;">一块</span>吃早餐。司机<span style="color: black;">已然</span>在楼下候着了，张琪和<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>吃完饭后，便坐上商务车，去往深圳一所国际学校。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">工作日的上午9点到下午4点，都是张琪的个人时间。这个<span style="color: black;">时期</span>，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>在上课，她<span style="color: black;">能够</span>去上舞蹈课，<span style="color: black;">或</span>和同为儿童<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师的同事<span style="color: black;">一块</span>出去<span style="color: black;">休憩</span>一下。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">直到下午4点，她和司机<span style="color: black;">一块</span>前往学校接<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>。偶尔她还需要代替家长去学校开会，接收学校<span style="color: black;">部署</span>的任务。回到家后，和<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">一块</span>吃饭、监督<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>学习，<span style="color: black;">而后</span>刷牙洗脸睡觉。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">这<span style="color: black;">时期</span>，她</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">不消</span>做家务，</span></span><span style="color: black;">最重要的任务<span style="color: black;">便是</span><span style="color: black;">陪同</span><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">为了尽快<span style="color: black;">加强</span><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的英语水平，适应国际学校的进度，她和<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>相处的80%时间都会用英语交流。</span></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">她们</span>住的房子<span style="color: black;">位置于</span>深圳的豪宅区。房子非常大，只住着老板的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>、老板亲戚的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>和工作人员，相当于是一个学生宿舍。老板不仅<span style="color: black;">区别</span>住，来看<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的频率<span style="color: black;">亦</span>很低，<span style="color: black;">通常</span><span style="color: black;">一月</span>一次。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">工作人员有儿童<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师、负责<span style="color: black;">平常</span>起居的阿姨和负责接送的司机，<span style="color: black;">大众</span>运作起来像一个<span style="color: black;">机构</span>，各司其职，<span style="color: black;">独一</span>的<span style="color: black;">目的</span><span style="color: black;">便是</span>照顾好老板的这些<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>们。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">张琪带的小<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>虽然才10岁，还算不上是里面最小的。最小的是一个刚上幼儿园的小孩，对阿姨非常依赖，离开了阿姨就会哭。</span></p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">这儿</span>有些小孩有专门的司机、阿姨和老师，几个人围着他转。其他<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>有共用的司机，负责接送；有共用的阿姨，负责做饭和家务。</span></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">张琪带的这个<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，<span style="color: black;">无</span>专门的阿姨陪着，由张琪全权负责。</span><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">虽然洗衣做饭之类繁琐的家务活都由其他的阿姨完成，但她相对其他<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师<span style="color: black;">来讲</span>，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>做了<span style="color: black;">有些</span><span style="color: black;">保母</span>的工作。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">她不仅需要陪<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>睡觉，监督<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的刷牙洗脸，讲卫生，陪<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>吃饭、看电视、上补习班，还需要打扫她和<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>那个房间的卫生。</span><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">“我是既当<span style="color: black;">保母</span>又当老师，我<span style="color: black;">始终</span>定位自己是一个大丫鬟，<span style="color: black;">或</span>说是教习嬷嬷。”</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">张琪带的这个小孩才二年级，<span style="color: black;">因此</span>她的任务除了<span style="color: black;">提高</span>小孩的英语水平之外，还需要<span style="color: black;">教诲</span>她待人接物之道，还<span style="color: black;">包含</span>心理上的开导，<span style="color: black;">行径</span>上的规范。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>平时表现出对哪个<span style="color: black;">行业</span>的东西感兴趣，她会马上去学习、看书，<span style="color: black;">而后</span>给<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>科普尽可能多的知识。这些都是她在<span style="color: black;">得到</span>这份工作之前，提前预备好的技能。</span></p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">当时她打败了几十个人，<span style="color: black;">经过</span>了三轮面试，才<span style="color: black;">得到</span>了这个工作。</span><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">按照</span>她的总结，她的<span style="color: black;">优良</span>是英语专八，英语<span style="color: black;">白话</span>能力是中等偏上，<span style="color: black;">无</span>口音。更重要的是，面相和生肖都符合老板的<span style="color: black;">需求</span>。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">她的<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师同事们，都是清一色的00后，国内名牌大学毕业<span style="color: black;">或</span>海归，有着傲人的学历背景以及<span style="color: black;">青年</span>、精力充沛的身体，足以应付活力满满的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>们。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">大众</span>的薪资都不低，都包吃包住。张琪<span style="color: black;">每一个</span>月的薪资是3万，据她介绍，是<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师中薪资偏低的一位了。</span></p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">“<span style="color: black;">食品</span>买最好的</span></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">出行坐头等舱”</span></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">张琪认为，</span><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师这份工作的<span style="color: black;">薪水</span>对比起上份工作，<span style="color: black;">已然</span>是天花板式的飞跃了。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">刚毕业来深圳时，她在一家小<span style="color: black;">机构</span>里从事海外营销，当时她觉得自己一腔抱负，却在小<span style="color: black;">机构</span>里碌碌无为。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">她想把宣传海报做好看，美工不听她的，上司<span style="color: black;">亦</span>不接受她的<span style="color: black;">意见</span>，她夹在中间很为难，觉得这间<span style="color: black;">机构</span><span style="color: black;">无</span>救了。当时，她过了三个月的试用期后，<span style="color: black;">机构</span>还<span style="color: black;">需求</span>她<span style="color: black;">签定</span>延长试用期协议，不给她转正。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">她拿着8千的工资，租着3千的房子，靠着父母的接济，才让深圳的生活过得顺利<span style="color: black;">有些</span>。她想着，<span style="color: black;">不可</span>再<span style="color: black;">这般</span>下去了，于是果断离职。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">当时她碰巧<span style="color: black;">认识</span>了儿童<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师这个岗位，<span style="color: black;">因此</span>她<span style="color: black;">起始</span>投简历，<span style="color: black;">起始</span>了人生中崭新又<span style="color: black;">奥妙</span>的跨越之旅。</span></p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">此刻</span>，她从月租3000的出租屋，搬到了深圳数千万的豪宅大平层套房里。</span><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">虽然和<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>两个人住在一个房间里，但那个房间非常大，衣帽间、卫生间、浴缸<span style="color: black;">亦</span>一应俱全。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">每日</span>都有阿姨变着<span style="color: black;">办法</span>做好饭给<span style="color: black;">她们</span>吃，阿姨会问<span style="color: black;">她们</span>需要什么<span style="color: black;">食品</span>，从大超市采购零食、牛奶、<span style="color: black;">各样</span>高价<span style="color: black;">果蔬</span>，放在冰箱里，无限量供应。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">老板跟她们强调，</span><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">想吃什么就吃什么，想吃什么就买什么，在<span style="color: black;">食品</span>上，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>吃穿用度上<span style="color: black;">必定</span>要买最好的。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">此刻</span>，<span style="color: black;">她们</span>出门就坐商务车，有司机开车。周末<span style="color: black;">或</span>节假日就陪着<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>公费旅游，之前<span style="color: black;">她们</span>带着<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>去上海迪士尼，老板给所有的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>和工作人员都买了头等舱。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">“我能理解给<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>买头等舱，<span style="color: black;">然则</span>给老师和阿姨都买了头等舱，真的对<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>这些工作人员非常好了。”</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">这个国庆，<span style="color: black;">她们</span>本来准备去美国，但<span style="color: black;">由于</span>签证来不及办理，改成去斯里兰卡，全程食宿、机票等<span style="color: black;">花费</span>由老板全包。张琪很开心，又省了一笔旅游的<span style="color: black;">花费</span>，相当于是这份工作的又一个隐形福利。</span></p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">老板对她的期待，<span style="color: black;">便是</span>把小<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>带好，多和<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>讲英语，<span style="color: black;">无</span>其他严苛的<span style="color: black;">需求</span>。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">况且</span>，</span><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">因为</span>老板很少出<span style="color: black;">此刻</span>家里，<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师们在家里<span style="color: black;">持有</span><span style="color: black;">很强</span>的自主性和自由度，相<span style="color: black;">针对</span>其他普通的陪伴师而言，<span style="color: black;">亦</span><span style="color: black;">不消</span>处理和雇主在<span style="color: black;">平常</span>琐事中的磨合问题。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">以前，她刚来这个家的时候，<span style="color: black;">仅有</span>她一位老师。老板规定，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>上学的时候，她<span style="color: black;">亦</span><span style="color: black;">不可</span>随意外出。<span style="color: black;">此刻</span>，家里的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>越来越多，<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师<span style="color: black;">亦</span>越来越多，老板便更改了规定，同意<span style="color: black;">她们</span>随意进出。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">一块</span>带小孩的时候，<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师们<span style="color: black;">能够</span>互相沟通，出去玩的时候<span style="color: black;">亦</span><span style="color: black;">一块</span>规划，小孩上课的时候，<span style="color: black;">她们</span>便<span style="color: black;">一块</span>聊天、去游泳，有彼此的<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>，日子变得越来越顺。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">张琪平时有健身的习惯，以前她需要在健身房办理月卡，<span style="color: black;">每一个</span>月在健身上花销不少，<span style="color: black;">此刻</span>她只要在空闲的时间，就能去小区配套的健身房免费<span style="color: black;">熬炼</span>，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>算是节省了一笔<span style="color: black;">花费</span>。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">自从换了这份包吃包住包旅游的工作后，她的工资<span style="color: black;">再也不</span><span style="color: black;">所有</span>用于<span style="color: black;">平常</span>的衣食住行等开销上，恩格尔系数大大降低，她能攒下来钱了，不仅不需要父母的接济，生活质量<span style="color: black;">亦</span>比此前<span style="color: black;">提高</span>了不少。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">03</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">被小孩欺负</span></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">却怕小孩受伤</span></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">在张琪看来，</span><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">给富人家的小孩当<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师，和给普通人家的小孩当<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师最大的<span style="color: black;">区别</span>是，双方之间会有一种权力的拉扯。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">张琪是老师，对<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>有教育监督的任务。但<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>是雇主，有“欺负”她的资本。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">张琪带的这个<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，虽然才10岁，但性子非常<span style="color: black;">火热</span>，急起来会打人。在张琪之前，有一个阿姨专门负责照顾她，后来被她暴力<span style="color: black;">熬煎</span>离职了。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">张琪在接手这个<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>之前，看了<span style="color: black;">非常多</span>关于儿童心理的书籍，其中有一点是要宽容、大爱、<span style="color: black;">包涵</span>这些<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>们的小脾性。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">到真正实践的时候，张琪才<span style="color: black;">发掘</span>，都是纸上谈兵。现实<span style="color: black;">状况</span>是<span style="color: black;">成人</span>的脾气越好，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>会越蹬鼻子上脸，她<span style="color: black;">因此呢</span>被气哭了<span style="color: black;">非常多</span>次。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>刚<span style="color: black;">起始</span><span style="color: black;">亦</span>会打她，张琪一<span style="color: black;">起始</span>忍着，后来又觉得不行，她们之间<span style="color: black;">便是</span>权力的拔河，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>会<span style="color: black;">始终</span>试探她的底线。张琪跟她讲道理，她就呛回去：你受不了就辞职。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">张琪<span style="color: black;">晓得</span>，这个<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>是嘴硬心软的类型，<span style="color: black;">由于</span>从小离开了父母，比较缺爱，<span style="color: black;">因此</span>内心比较<span style="color: black;">敏锐</span>，她需要花<span style="color: black;">更加多</span>的时间去理解和<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>她。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">但她<span style="color: black;">亦</span>有自己的原则，当<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>蹬鼻子上脸太过分时，她会和她硬碰硬，小孩打她，她就<span style="color: black;">掌控</span>力度打回去，小孩让她辞职，她就直接回怼说：那你去找你妈妈，让她把我开了。小孩不敢找妈妈，于是便默不作声了。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">“她不是真的想让我走，她就只是放狠话<span style="color: black;">罢了</span>。这种嘴巴很硬的小孩，我只能见招拆招。”</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">做为</span>一名儿童<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师，张琪最害怕的事情，<span style="color: black;">便是</span>小孩<span style="color: black;">患病</span><span style="color: black;">或</span>受伤。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">平时小孩在学校，学校老师会照顾好<span style="color: black;">她们</span>，放学<span style="color: black;">或</span>放假的时候，<span style="color: black;">便是</span>张琪24小时看守，她得提心吊胆地照顾好。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">有的时候，雇主来看小孩了。<span style="color: black;">由于</span>很少见到小孩，<span style="color: black;">因此</span>见面时<span style="color: black;">她们</span>会疯狂满足小孩的一切<span style="color: black;">需要</span>。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">而小<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>们什么东西都不想要，只想吃糖，实现零食自由。张琪<span style="color: black;">发掘</span>，这些小<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>吃多了零食后又很容易<span style="color: black;">患病</span>，一旦<span style="color: black;">患病</span>，辛苦的便是老师和阿姨，得24小时悉心照顾。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">她觉得<span style="color: black;">这般</span><span style="color: black;">欠好</span>，但<span style="color: black;">做为</span>旁观者，</span><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">她看着这些平时难以和母亲相聚的小孩，在母亲满足<span style="color: black;">她们</span>的心愿时感到幸福和<span style="color: black;">愉快</span>，她不愿意打搅这<span style="color: black;">稍许</span>的温情。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">但她还是很怕<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>受伤，并常常<span style="color: black;">因此呢</span>感到心力交瘁。前两天，小孩的腿受伤了，磨破了皮，张琪非常紧张，感觉<span style="color: black;">就地</span>想昏过去。她就在这种“提前当妈”的担心和<span style="color: black;">小心</span>里，细心地照料着别人的小孩。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">“毕竟不是自己的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，受伤了怎么向她的爸妈交代。不严重还好，严重的话我可能就直接拜拜了。”</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">04</span></strong></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">儿童<span style="color: black;">陪同</span>师</span></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">只能当作过渡性的工作</span></span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">入职了富人家庭后，张琪虽然攒下了钱，告别了窘迫的生活，暂时实现了经济上的自由，但她却感到人身变得不自由了。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">她感觉自己像是被圈养在笼子里的金丝雀，<span style="color: black;">已然</span>失去了所有社交圈子。</span></strong><span style="color: black;">她空闲的时间，正好是别人的上班时间，而当别人下班时，她正好忙得脚不沾地。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">更让她决心脱离<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>圈的是，她觉得<span style="color: black;">此刻</span>的生活<span style="color: black;">已然</span>不符合她这个阶层了，<span style="color: black;">倘若</span>把<span style="color: black;">此刻</span>的衣食住行分享在<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>圈，会被人说她是山鸡变凤凰，猜测她是不是嫁给了老男人。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">于是她消失在了自己的<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>圈，消失在<span style="color: black;">本来</span>的生活圈，只存在于这个富豪家庭。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">“消失”的她时常迷茫，即使<span style="color: black;">此刻</span>收入稳定、工作稳定，但她仍觉得这份工作<span style="color: black;">无</span>前景，<span style="color: black;">由于</span>驱动她的仅仅是收入，<span style="color: black;">因此</span>只能<span style="color: black;">做为</span>一份过渡性的工作。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">“我还是想找一个有发展前景，<span style="color: black;">或</span><span style="color: black;">爱好</span>的工作。<span style="color: black;">然则</span>好难，我不<span style="color: black;">晓得</span>我的兴趣<span style="color: black;">兴趣</span>是什么，我害怕对一份工作感到厌烦。找不到<span style="color: black;">爱好</span>做的事，那就不是在建造一个金字塔，而是在修补一个破船。”</span></p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">总体而言，</span><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">这份工作<span style="color: black;">亦</span>算是她人生中一段独特的体验，对她二十几年来形成的金钱观、财富观产生了<span style="color: black;">极重</span>的冲击，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>进行了重塑。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">她从迈进这个豪宅的那一刻起，<span style="color: black;">每日</span>都在大开眼界：啊，原来有钱人的世界是<span style="color: black;">这般</span>子的啊！这<span style="color: black;">便是</span>享不尽的荣华富贵啊！</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">看着这些稚嫩的小孩，<span style="color: black;">她们</span>人生的起点，可能是她奋斗<span style="color: black;">一生</span>都达不到的终点，她产生了<span style="color: black;">有些</span>自卑和落差心理：</span><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">人生最大的分水岭，莫不是羊水。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">一年前，她还住在小小的出租屋里，但当时她对生活充满憧憬，会拍<span style="color: black;">非常多</span>出租屋的照片，在出租屋自拍。<span style="color: black;">此刻</span>，虽然房子变得又大又<span style="color: black;">豪气</span>，生活<span style="color: black;">亦</span>变得相对“奢侈”，她却不<span style="color: black;">爱好</span>拍照了，这一切对她<span style="color: black;">来讲</span>都充满了虚无感。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">“<span style="color: black;">这儿</span><span style="color: black;">无</span>我的生活，我只是别人生活的一个陪衬。”</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">南柯一梦过后，她清醒地看到尽管出生在富人家，这些小<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">亦</span>有<span style="color: black;">懊恼</span>，<span style="color: black;">例如</span>从小就离开父母的<span style="color: black;">懊恼</span>、<span style="color: black;">各样</span>学习和生活上的<span style="color: black;">懊恼</span>。在她看来，她带的这个<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>和自己年纪相仿的表妹相比，虽然家庭的财富<span style="color: black;">累积</span>一个天一个地，但幸福度和<span style="color: black;">懊恼</span>度相差无几。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><strong style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;">她感觉自己渐渐摆脱了贫富差距带来的心理落差后，所处的位置像是一下子从1楼升到了100楼，从一个旁观者的<span style="color: black;">方向</span>，观察着一个富豪家庭小孩的成长。</span></strong></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">以前她想象过，以后嫁给一位<span style="color: black;">特别有</span>钱的老公，<span style="color: black;">而后</span>就<span style="color: black;">能够</span><span style="color: black;">不消</span><span style="color: black;">奋斗</span>了，<span style="color: black;">起始</span>躺平，应该会比嫁到普通家庭更幸福。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">但她<span style="color: black;">此刻</span>改变主意了，她觉得自己<span style="color: black;">奋斗</span><span style="color: black;">挣钱</span>，亲自去体验争取这种生活的过程才是有趣的，<span style="color: black;">由于</span>幸福感是从成就感中获取到的。</span></p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">而直接从普通家庭跃进这种富豪生活，<span style="color: black;">忽然</span>间地<span style="color: black;">持有</span>，代价会是失去自由。自由是多么可贵的东西，即使生活过得普通，那种对生活的掌控感才是她想要的。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">“至于<span style="color: black;">此刻</span>，什么都不要去想太多，过好自己的生活就好了。”</span></p>
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