b1gc8v 发表于 2024-6-5 13:31:11

原创 友情是自我认识不强的表现


    <p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">人们大多<span style="color: black;">注意</span>友情,<span style="color: black;">乃至</span>有的人高度依赖友情,认为<span style="color: black;">无</span>友情就<span style="color: black;">显出</span>孤单寂寞,<span style="color: black;">乃至</span><span style="color: black;">没</span>依<span style="color: black;">没</span>靠。<span style="color: black;">那样</span>,友情<span style="color: black;">是否</span>真的<span style="color: black;">那样</span><span style="color: black;">要紧</span>,有<span style="color: black;">无</span><span style="color: black;">表现</span>自我<span style="color: black;">认识</span>不强的意思?</p>
    <p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><img src="//q9.itc.cn/images01/20240520/c5b63518f33a49f1b988961fa69c129e.jpeg" style="width: 50%; margin-bottom: 20px;"></p>
    <p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">友情并不<span style="color: black;">必定</span>非常<span style="color: black;">要紧</span>,但人在进化过程中,<span style="color: black;">已然</span>形<span style="color: black;">成为了</span>高度社会化特征。由独立的人变<span style="color: black;">成为了</span>群居的人,由氏族社会发展到体系完备的现代化社会,其间经历了上千年,<span style="color: black;">乃至</span>完全变<span style="color: black;">成为了</span>人们和自然斗争,和社会斗争的历史。在远古时代,人们大多“聚族而居”,要在<span style="color: black;">一块</span>生活,<span style="color: black;">才可</span><span style="color: black;">得到</span>好的社会资源,<span style="color: black;">得到</span><span style="color: black;">更加多</span><span style="color: black;">存活</span>下去的机会。人们似乎要依赖友情,<span style="color: black;">才可</span>发展下去。只是依赖亲戚似乎并<span style="color: black;">不可</span><span style="color: black;">得到</span>好的发展,<span style="color: black;">必须</span>对外扩展人际关系,<span style="color: black;">才可</span><span style="color: black;">得到</span>好的人脉,<span style="color: black;">得到</span>好的发展。</p>
    <p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">可是,在扩展人脉关系的<span style="color: black;">同期</span>,人们容易失去自我。人们寻找到了友情,就会失去一部分自我肯定的<span style="color: black;">认识</span>。<span style="color: black;">她们</span>会肯定<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>的长处,而<span style="color: black;">同期</span><span style="color: black;">得到</span><span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>的认同。<span style="color: black;">亦</span><span style="color: black;">便是</span>说,只要肯定了<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>的长处,就弱化了自己<span style="color: black;">一样</span>的长处,除非这个人能保持高度理性,在认同<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>长处的时候,心里默认为自己比<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>要厉害得多,<span style="color: black;">亦</span>更有能耐。<span style="color: black;">通常</span>人只是在寻找<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>的时候忘记了自我,<span style="color: black;">她们</span>会以<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>为感情<span style="color: black;">拜托</span>,<span style="color: black;">乃至</span>要为了<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>去拼命。古代的知音之交、刎颈之交、范张鸡黍等故事都在说明友情的<span style="color: black;">要紧</span>性。<span style="color: black;">然则</span>,人们交<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>的时候,<span style="color: black;">常常</span>会把自己的主观情感投射到<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>身上,认为<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span><span style="color: black;">便是</span>自己的左膀右臂,<span style="color: black;">乃至</span>是自己<span style="color: black;">委托</span>性命的人。刘备说:“兄弟如手足,妻子如衣服。”其中<span style="color: black;">所说</span>的兄弟<span style="color: black;">便是</span>刘、关、张三位好汉,而不是<span style="color: black;">通常</span><span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>。</p>
    <p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">通常</span>朋友只是互相帮忙,<span style="color: black;">或</span>只是酒肉<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>,并不互相帮忙,至于借钱,更提不上。而过命的<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>就不是<span style="color: black;">这般</span>了,<span style="color: black;">能够</span>互相帮忙,<span style="color: black;">乃至</span>为了对方去死。<span style="color: black;">亦</span><span style="color: black;">便是</span>说,有了很深的友情,就<span style="color: black;">能够</span>见证人性的<span style="color: black;">没</span>私和伟大。可是,一旦验证了人性<span style="color: black;">没</span>私和伟大的友情,就会让人心生<span style="color: black;">可疑</span>。<span style="color: black;">由于</span>友情超越功利化<span style="color: black;">需求</span>,<span style="color: black;">成为了</span>超功利的存在,<span style="color: black;">亦</span>就让友情维系的双方或多方<span style="color: black;">成为了</span>融汇为一体的集体,<span style="color: black;">成为了</span>消弭个性、<span style="color: black;">一起</span><span style="color: black;">守护</span>集体利益的个体。</p>
    <p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><img src="//q0.itc.cn/images01/20240520/6c43204bc27140c1a8172fba5f3aaa26.jpeg" style="width: 50%; margin-bottom: 20px;"></p>
    <p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">友情看似很美好,其实只是一种人际关系的扩展,<span style="color: black;">乃至</span>充满功利属性。有人交酒肉<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>,真到了<span style="color: black;">必须</span>帮忙的时候却不<span style="color: black;">可靠</span>;有人交了损友,<span style="color: black;">无</span><span style="color: black;">得到</span>多少利益,却被<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>拉下水,被<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span><span style="color: black;">拖累</span>。有人交<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>是为了谈<span style="color: black;">爱情</span>,有人交<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>是为了借钱,都充满了功利属性,<span style="color: black;">亦</span>都要从对方那里<span style="color: black;">得到</span>利益。在<span style="color: black;">得到</span>利益的<span style="color: black;">同期</span>,<span style="color: black;">自己</span>的<span style="color: black;">有些</span>自信消失了,<span style="color: black;">必须</span><span style="color: black;">得到</span><span style="color: black;">帮忙</span>,<span style="color: black;">或</span>说利用<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>干<span style="color: black;">有些</span>事情,为自己谋利。倘若一个人有权或有钱,能干成<span style="color: black;">非常多</span>事,就<span style="color: black;">不必</span>主动结交不如自己的人,即便是和自己身份相当的人,<span style="color: black;">亦</span><span style="color: black;">不必</span>主动结交,<span style="color: black;">仅有</span>到了互相利用<span style="color: black;">或</span>求助人家的时候<span style="color: black;">才可</span>主动交<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>。或许,从<span style="color: black;">基本</span>上说,友情是功利化的,<span style="color: black;">况且</span>常常带有互相利用的属性。倘若一个人有权有钱,就<span style="color: black;">无</span>真正过命的好<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>了。<span style="color: black;">由于</span><span style="color: black;">她们</span>的友情都是<span style="color: black;">创立</span>在物质利益<span style="color: black;">基本</span>之上的,却不具备超功利的属性,当然不会有知音<span style="color: black;">显现</span>,<span style="color: black;">亦</span>不会有人为<span style="color: black;">她们</span>甘愿献身。</p>
    <p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">有人为了钱财献身,却并不<span style="color: black;">必定</span>为了友情献身。友情从<span style="color: black;">出现</span>之日就<span style="color: black;">已然</span>让人失去了一部分自我<span style="color: black;">认识</span>,是对自己能力不是十分自信的一种表现。<span style="color: black;">爱好</span>交<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>的人<span style="color: black;">常常</span>表现为心理弱势地位,<span style="color: black;">必须</span><span style="color: black;">得到</span><span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>的<span style="color: black;">帮忙</span>,<span style="color: black;">乃至</span><span style="color: black;">必须</span><span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>舍命相助。<span style="color: black;">通常</span>老<span style="color: black;">大众</span><span style="color: black;">必须</span><span style="color: black;">得到</span><span style="color: black;">伴侣</span><span style="color: black;">帮忙</span>,尤其在农忙时节,<span style="color: black;">必须</span>发挥农村原初的互助精神,要互相<span style="color: black;">帮忙</span>,把成熟农作物收回家,不至于遭了暴雨,<span style="color: black;">或</span>冰雹。农村外出打工的人<span style="color: black;">亦</span>要互相<span style="color: black;">帮忙</span>,亲戚<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>互相帮忙。有句话叫做:“在家靠兄弟,在外靠<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>。”又说“千里难寻是<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>,<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>多了路好走。”反之,<span style="color: black;">倘若</span><span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>少了,“路”就<span style="color: black;">欠好</span>走了。可是,交<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>的时候,人们会<span style="color: black;">发掘</span>自己能力有限,<span style="color: black;">或</span>只是为了以后<span style="color: black;">得到</span><span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>的<span style="color: black;">帮忙</span>,但分明感觉自己能力有限,主体<span style="color: black;">认识</span>不是<span style="color: black;">那样</span><span style="color: black;">饱满</span>。</p>
    <p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><img src="//q2.itc.cn/images01/20240520/b230ee62a06f45cf93bc39fa8d7f636f.jpeg" style="width: 50%; margin-bottom: 20px;"></p>
    <p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">人应该有<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>,应该和<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>共勉,<span style="color: black;">以避免</span>人生路上太过孤单。<span style="color: black;">然则</span>把<span style="color: black;">期盼</span>全都<span style="color: black;">拜托</span>在<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>身上,<span style="color: black;">没</span>异于不信任自己,<span style="color: black;">乃至</span>把自己的主体<span style="color: black;">认识</span>完全出让,<span style="color: black;">或</span>直接抹杀。诚然,<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>多了好办事,但<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>多了<span style="color: black;">亦</span>是一种累,让人疲于应付。<span style="color: black;">非常多</span>人被友情绑架,不得自由,<span style="color: black;">乃至</span>完全被友情<span style="color: black;">安排</span>,失去了独立自主的<span style="color: black;">认识</span>,<span style="color: black;">亦</span>就失去了自我。理想的状态是,保持清醒的主体<span style="color: black;">认识</span>,还要交<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>,在必要的时候<span style="color: black;">得到</span><span style="color: black;">帮忙</span>,而<span style="color: black;">不可</span>完全依靠<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>,<span style="color: black;">以避免</span>被朋友戏弄<span style="color: black;">或</span>出卖。要<span style="color: black;">警觉</span>,友情是自我<span style="color: black;">认识</span>不强的表现,<span style="color: black;">亦</span>是自我失去<span style="color: black;">有些</span>自<span style="color: black;">自信心</span>的表现,<span style="color: black;">必须</span>返观内照,确立个人独立的主体<span style="color: black;">认识</span>,还要<span style="color: black;">加强</span>自<span style="color: black;">自信心</span>,能独立完成的事情绝不依靠<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span>帮忙,似乎<span style="color: black;">能够</span><span style="color: black;">得到</span>很强的自信和能力,<span style="color: black;">亦</span>保持了个人相对独立的主体<span style="color: black;">认识</span>。<a style="color: black;"><span style="color: black;">返回首页,查看<span style="color: black;">更加多</span></span></a></p>

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