双语 | 有人在背面说你的坏话，怎么办
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">坦白地说：被爱的感觉真的很好！去年夏天，有一次在亚利桑那州<span style="color: black;">扮演</span>完后，一个十来岁的<span style="color: black;">青年</span>姑娘排在长长的粉丝队伍中，等着要把她用黏土捏成的心送给我。拿到手的那一刻，我的心就融化了，仿佛自己的那颗心<span style="color: black;">亦</span>是用<span style="color: black;">一样</span>的软泥做成的。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">You dont have to have a performing career to have a following of admirers these days. With the rising of online communities in the last decade such as YouTube, Facebook, Twitter, etc., most of us have had the experience of building our own followings, whether our circle of family and friends or as part of a business or organization that we run. Who doesnt enjoy getting "likes" and reading through the re-affirming comments of others? Indeed, being admired is a validating (证实) experience and I dont know many people that don’t want to be respected and loved.</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">现如今，你<span style="color: black;">不消</span>非得从事演艺事业，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>能<span style="color: black;">持有</span>一大批仰慕你的人。近十年来，随着诸如视频网站YouTube、社交网站Facebook和推特等<span style="color: black;">各样</span>网络社区的兴起，<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>大<span style="color: black;">都数</span>人都曾有过累积<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>自己的支持者的经历，不管是<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>的家人、<span style="color: black;">伴侣</span><span style="color: black;">亦</span>好，还是<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>生意上、团队里的伙伴<span style="color: black;">亦</span>罢。谁不<span style="color: black;">爱好</span>得到别人的“点赞”，谁不<span style="color: black;">爱好</span>从头到尾地读完别人再三肯定自己的评论？的确，被人仰慕是一种得到认可的体验，我认识的人<span style="color: black;">其中</span><span style="color: black;">亦</span>很少有人不想受到尊敬与爱慕。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">But what happens when you are openly and publicly criticized and even hated? Does it knock you off your center? Along with the benefits of these online social communities comes a platform for negative voices that we may not always be able to control. I’ve had my fair share (公平分配) of haters. Sure you can "block (屏蔽)" or "unfriend (解除好友关系)" anyone who wishes you emotional harm, but once a malicious (恶意的) comment has blindsided (偷袭) you, it can really shake you up (使不安). Here are a few tips on how to come out of these situations unscathed (未受<span style="color: black;">损害</span>的) and even more confident than before.</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">然则</span>，<span style="color: black;">倘若</span>你遭到公开的批评<span style="color: black;">乃至</span>是憎恨，你会<span style="color: black;">怎么样</span>？你会被击垮吗？这些网络社交社区在带来种种好处的<span style="color: black;">同期</span>，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>会<span style="color: black;">供给</span>平台给各类<span style="color: black;">消极</span>声音，而<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>对这些<span style="color: black;">消极</span>声音却并不一定总能掌控。我<span style="color: black;">亦</span>免不了有恨我的人。当然，你<span style="color: black;">能够</span>“屏蔽”<span style="color: black;">或</span>“删除”任何想<span style="color: black;">损伤</span>你感情的人。可是，一旦有条恶意言论出其不意地攻击了你，它就真的会让你感到心烦意乱。<span style="color: black;">那样</span><span style="color: black;">咱们</span><span style="color: black;">怎样</span><span style="color: black;">才可</span>毫发<span style="color: black;">没</span>伤地走出这些困境，<span style="color: black;">乃至</span>做到比以前更加自信呢？来听听下面这几条<span style="color: black;">意见</span>吧。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">1. The way we see others tends to be a reflection of how we see ourselves. In other words, if someone is bothered by you or even hating on you (or vice versa), that person is only bothered by what they cannot accept about his or herself. This makes it much easier to stand back (置身事外) and have compassion on those who are struggling to find something within themselves to love. Likewise, if someone consistently sees the good in others and in life, they are likely to be confident about who they are as a person and attract like-minded personalities into their sphere of influence.</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">1. <span style="color: black;">咱们</span>看待别人的方式<span style="color: black;">常常</span>会反映出<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>是<span style="color: black;">怎样</span>看待自己的。换句话说，<span style="color: black;">倘若</span>有人对你感到厌烦<span style="color: black;">乃至</span>对你心怀怨恨(反之<span style="color: black;">也</span>然)，<span style="color: black;">那样</span>那个人仅仅是对其<span style="color: black;">自己</span>所<span style="color: black;">不可</span>接受的东西感到厌恶。<span style="color: black;">倘若</span>能够<span style="color: black;">这般</span>想，<span style="color: black;">那样</span>置身事外就变得容易得多，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>就<span style="color: black;">更易</span>同情<span style="color: black;">哪些</span>正在竭力寻找<span style="color: black;">自己</span>值得被人<span style="color: black;">爱好</span>的一面的人。<span style="color: black;">一样</span>，<span style="color: black;">倘若</span>有人<span style="color: black;">持续</span><span style="color: black;">发掘</span>他人身上和生活中美好的一面，<span style="color: black;">那样</span><span style="color: black;">她们</span>很可能就会自信地做自己，吸引志趣相投的人到<span style="color: black;">她们</span>的圈子里。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">2. Avoid the temptation to fire back to a hater. Respond instead with a disarming (消除怒气的) approach. It will always make things worse to get even (<span style="color: black;">报仇</span>) by firing back and you wont come out on top (<span style="color: black;">得到</span>成功), even if you win (I speak from experience!). If you must say something, then I find it extremely effective to say something totally disarming. For example, I once had someone comment on one of music videos. They said, "Your nose bugs (使厌烦) me." Not that big of a deal, but still, its not fun to have your face criticized. I commented back and said something to the effect of (大意是): "I got my nose from my dad. I love it because it reminds me of him and what an amazing person he is."</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">2. 避开<span style="color: black;">引诱</span>，不去反击仇恨你的人。相反，要心平气和地做出<span style="color: black;">回复</span>。若是为了<span style="color: black;">报仇</span>进行反击，永远只会使<span style="color: black;">状况</span>变得更加糟糕，即使你赢了，你<span style="color: black;">亦</span>不会<span style="color: black;">作为</span>最后的赢家(我<span style="color: black;">这般</span>说是有亲身经历的！)。<span style="color: black;">倘若</span>你非要说些什么，<span style="color: black;">那样</span>我觉得说些能彻底消除敌意的话是非常奏效的。例如，有人曾经<span style="color: black;">这般</span><span style="color: black;">评估</span>我的一个音乐视频，<span style="color: black;">她们</span>说：“你的鼻子让我觉得很烦！”虽然这<span style="color: black;">无</span>什么大不了的，<span style="color: black;">然则</span>你的长相被人指摘<span style="color: black;">亦</span>不是什么有趣的事情。于是我做了回复，大意说的是：“我的鼻子随我爸。我<span style="color: black;">爱好</span>它，<span style="color: black;">由于</span>它让我想起了他，想起他是一个多么了不起的人。”</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">On another occasion, I had a commenter criticize me for wearing what she deemed as "an immodest (不合礼仪的) dress" in one of my music videos and publicly pointed the finger at me for being a bad example. I wrote back and said (paraphrasing), "Whoever you are, wherever you are, I just want you to know that I love you no matter what decisions you make in your life."</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">还有一次，有个评论者认为我在某个音乐视频里穿了“一件不合礼仪的裙子”，因而对此颇有微词，<span style="color: black;">况且</span>还公然指责我带了个坏头。我回复道(大致是<span style="color: black;">这般</span>)：“<span style="color: black;">没</span>论你是谁，<span style="color: black;">没</span>论你身在何处，我只是想让你<span style="color: black;">晓得</span>我是爱你的，不管你这<span style="color: black;">一辈子</span>会做出什么决定。”</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">She sent me a private apology shortly after that. It doesnt take much to totally shift the energy of a negative comment into something positive. As a result, you will feel infinitely better too.</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">在那之后不久，她<span style="color: black;">暗里</span>向我<span style="color: black;">暗示</span>了道歉。没费太多事，<span style="color: black;">消极</span>评论的负能量就完全转化成正能量了。<span style="color: black;">最后</span>，你<span style="color: black;">亦</span>会感觉好<span style="color: black;">非常多</span>。</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">3. In the words of Alison Krauss: "You say it best, when you say nothing at all." Ask yourself if its really worth it to spend any energy at all fussing over (过分关心)a hater. Most of the time, its not. So do what you have to do: "Block", "Delete", "Report (举报)", and go on with your day. (Bonus (赠品): Send out a prayer, a wish or a good vibration (共鸣) for the one who tried to hurt you. Youll feel amazing. I promise.)</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">3. 用艾莉森·克劳斯的话说：“此时<span style="color: black;">没</span>声胜有声。”扪心自问，花费精力去对付一个恨你的人<span style="color: black;">到底</span><span style="color: black;">是不是</span>真的值得。<span style="color: black;">非常多</span>时候，这是不值得的。<span style="color: black;">因此</span>只管做你<span style="color: black;">必须</span>做的就好啦：“屏蔽”“删除”“举报”，继续过好你的日子。(附赠：为<span style="color: black;">哪些</span>试图想<span style="color: black;">损伤</span>你的人祈祷、祝福<span style="color: black;">或</span>说一句让人有好感的话，我<span style="color: black;">保准</span>，你会感觉棒极了。)</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">Sometimes its easy to forget that theres a real person on the other side of the computer screen. We could all stand to be a little more generous with the positive comments we leave and lot more cautious about the criticism we make. But when it comes to others leaving waves of negativity in their wake (随之而来), remember that its not about you and it never was.</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"> 有时，<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>很容易忘记电脑屏幕的另一端坐着一个活生生的人。<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>都<span style="color: black;">能够</span>对<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>所做的正面<span style="color: black;">评估</span>稍微慷慨<span style="color: black;">有些</span>，对<span style="color: black;">咱们</span>所做出的批评指责更加小心<span style="color: black;">小心</span><span style="color: black;">有些</span>。但若是别人在<span style="color: black;">背面</span>兴风作浪，请记住，这与你<span style="color: black;">没</span>关，从来都与你<span style="color: black;">没</span>关。</p>
“NB”（牛×的缩写，表示叹为观止） 你的话语真是温暖如春，让我心生感激。 谷歌网站排名优化 http://www.fok120.com/ 大势所趋，用于讽刺一些制作目的就是为了跟风玩梗，博取眼球的作品。 你说得对，我们一起加油，未来可期。 外链论坛的成功举办，是与各位领导、同仁们的关怀和支持分不开的。在此，我谨代表公司向关心和支持论坛的各界人士表示最衷心的感谢！ 你的见解真是独到，让我受益匪浅。 一看到楼主的气势，我就觉得楼主同在社区里灌水。
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