孩儿放假后“疯狂”玩手机，到底怎么管？这位妈妈的做法，简单有用｜伴读
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">作者 | 暖爸老白</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">播音 | 武冰洁 </p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">视觉设计 | 王荣佳</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">栏目主持 | 杜润楠</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">如今，家长们最头疼的事情之一，<span style="color: black;">便是</span><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>沉迷手机。平时上学，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>刷手机的机会比较少，可到了假期，<span style="color: black;">她们</span>有<span style="color: black;">非常多</span>时间去刷。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>一旦沉迷手机，不仅会影响假期生活和专注力，还会<span style="color: black;">由于</span>家长<span style="color: black;">管理</span>而<span style="color: black;">诱发</span>冲突，影响亲子关系。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">怎样</span><span style="color: black;">才可</span>避免<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>陷入虚拟的网络世界？<span style="color: black;">怎样</span>让<span style="color: black;">已然</span>沉迷的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>摆脱手机的“<span style="color: black;">引诱</span>”呢？今天<span style="color: black;">博主</span>为你带来了一位妈妈的故事。</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">儿子今年11岁，读五年级。早些年，<span style="color: black;">由于</span>他精力旺盛、活泼好动，为了能让他老实一会儿，我经常会随手把手机递给他。一拿到手机，儿子就立即安静下来，全神贯注地盯着屏幕。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">直到我反复提醒，<span style="color: black;">重视</span><span style="color: black;">休憩</span>眼睛，才恋恋不舍地放下手机。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">那时，我并<span style="color: black;">无</span>觉得<span style="color: black;">这般</span>做有何<span style="color: black;">不当</span>，直到儿子<span style="color: black;">起始</span><span style="color: black;">显现</span>沉迷手机的趋势，我才<span style="color: black;">认识</span>到问题的严重性。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">去年暑假的前几天，儿子在我的看管下，状态比较正常。但渐渐地，我察觉到了不对劲：<span style="color: black;">白日</span>看着<span style="color: black;">亦</span>在专心写暑假作业，<span style="color: black;">为何</span>写得错漏百出？大<span style="color: black;">白日</span><span style="color: black;">为何</span>总是呵欠连天？直到有一天儿子的举动让我找到了答案。</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">一天深夜，我去卫生间时，隐约看到儿子房间的门缝内有些亮光，我敲了敲门<span style="color: black;">无</span>动静，就轻轻拧开门把手，进去一看。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">只见儿子在黑灯瞎火的房间里，戴着耳机，沉迷地看着手机。经过一番质问，我才得知，原来儿子<span style="color: black;">每日</span><span style="color: black;">夜晚</span>都跟我熬，直到我和他爸睡着了，才偷摸去拿我在客厅充电的手机，看上两三个小时，<span style="color: black;">而后</span>再偷偷放回去。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">我<span style="color: black;">认识</span>到，必须帮儿子戒掉手机了。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">那到底该怎么做呢？</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">经过一段时间的学习，我<span style="color: black;">发掘</span>，儿子<span style="color: black;">爱好</span>刷短视频，是<span style="color: black;">由于</span>能体会到放松和快乐。刷短视频的快乐，是低级快乐，而<span style="color: black;">长时间</span>沉迷低级快乐，不仅会上瘾，还会对大脑<span style="color: black;">导致</span><span style="color: black;">损伤</span>。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">当一个<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">长时间</span><span style="color: black;">处在</span>靠放纵<span style="color: black;">得到</span>的“低级快乐”中，<span style="color: black;">她们</span>对经过<span style="color: black;">奋斗</span><span style="color: black;">才可</span><span style="color: black;">得到</span>快乐的学习、阅读，就很难再投入其中，而<span style="color: black;">长时间</span>沉迷于短暂的快乐，会让<span style="color: black;">她们</span>丧失深度理解、思考的能力；尤其是青春期的<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，大脑正在<span style="color: black;">生长</span>期，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>可能<span style="color: black;">引起</span><span style="color: black;">生长</span>不良、<span style="color: black;">心情</span><span style="color: black;">失去控制</span>、暴躁易怒等。<span style="color: black;">非常多</span>时候，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>沉迷“低级快乐”，根在家庭，因在父母。</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">该怎么帮<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>走出来呢？想要让<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>远离“垃圾快乐”，家长<span style="color: black;">能够</span>做好三点指引。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">引导<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>，多做延迟满足的事</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">咱们</span>之<span style="color: black;">因此</span>会沉浸在刷短视频的快乐中，是<span style="color: black;">由于</span>能<span style="color: black;">得到</span>“即时满足”。这种快乐是当下的、毫不费力的，只要你去做这些事情，当时就能体会到快乐。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">而<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>更<span style="color: black;">必须</span>的，是做“延时满足”的事情，<span style="color: black;">例如</span>读书、运动等等，这种<span style="color: black;">仅有</span>付出<span style="color: black;">必定</span>的时间精力，<span style="color: black;">才可</span>取得成绩，收获成就感。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">因此</span>，家长<span style="color: black;">能够</span>先从<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的<span style="color: black;">兴趣</span>入手，引导<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>做延迟满足的事情。循序渐进，让孩子习惯在延迟满足中感受快乐。</p>
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<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">家长以身作则，远离低级快乐</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>小时候都<span style="color: black;">广泛</span>缺乏自觉能力，能否养成自律、进取的习惯和态度，取决于父母的培养和影响。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">家庭是<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的<span style="color: black;">第1</span>所学校，父母是<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的<span style="color: black;">第1</span>任老师。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">家长要以身作则，给<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>示范积极、健康的生活方式，<span style="color: black;">尽可能</span>给<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">供给</span>一个舒适、正向的环境。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">回想过去这几年，我自己下班回家，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>经常抱着手机刷个<span style="color: black;">一直</span>。想着看完这个就不刷了，但手却停不下来，不知不觉就看了几个小时。直到深夜睡觉时，才放下手机。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">这般</span>的我，简直<span style="color: black;">便是</span><span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>模仿的不良示范。身为<span style="color: black;">成人</span>的我都<span style="color: black;">无</span>以身作则，再去讲大道理说教，<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>怎么会心服口服呢？</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">丰富<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的真实生活</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">一个<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>沉迷于游戏<span style="color: black;">或</span>短视频，更<span style="color: black;">重点</span>的<span style="color: black;">原由</span>是，他<span style="color: black;">无</span>其他有趣的事情可做，生活中缺乏有<span style="color: black;">道理</span>的安排。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">因此呢</span>，家长要多带<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>体验<span style="color: black;">区别</span>的事物，丰富<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的真实生活。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;"><span style="color: black;">能够</span>多方面培养<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>的兴趣<span style="color: black;">兴趣</span>，带<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>学跳舞、学烘焙、去旅行……<span style="color: black;">亦</span><span style="color: black;">能够</span>带<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>接触乡下和大自然，干点农活。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">我<span style="color: black;">忽然</span>想起，儿子曾兴奋地告诉我，自己将来要打羽毛球。于是我给儿子报了一个羽毛球班，<span style="color: black;">火速</span>，儿子就进步飞速，教练<span style="color: black;">亦</span>夸儿子有<span style="color: black;">天分</span>。<span style="color: black;">每日</span>两小时的打球训练，让儿子挥汗如雨。但他却不喊累，反而每次结束时，都要在场边再观看一会儿别人对打。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">就<span style="color: black;">这般</span>，他渐渐摆脱掉了网络游戏，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>许是运动刺激了大脑，<span style="color: black;">亦</span>可能是教练的认可激励了他的自<span style="color: black;">自信心</span>，儿子学习时<span style="color: black;">重视</span>力集中的时间变久了，理解力和记忆力<span style="color: black;">亦</span><span style="color: black;">显著</span>比过去<span style="color: black;">加强</span>。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">开学后，儿子的表现简直令我刮目相看，一段<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>沉迷手机的<span style="color: black;">危险</span>，就<span style="color: black;">这般</span>化解了。</p>
<p style="font-size: 16px; color: black; line-height: 40px; text-align: left; margin-bottom: 15px;">回顾这段经历，我深刻<span style="color: black;">认识</span>到，当<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>沉迷手机等网络世界，<span style="color: black;">做为</span>家长<span style="color: black;">必定</span>不要跟<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span>硬来，<span style="color: black;">把握</span>科学的教育<span style="color: black;">办法</span>，引导<span style="color: black;">孩儿</span><span style="color: black;">恰当</span><span style="color: black;">运用</span>手机，才是真正的<span style="color: black;">处理</span><span style="color: black;">方法</span>。</p>
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